Thursday, June 29, 2017

Sinposium: Done!

Last weekend was the Monarchs' Sinposium educational event at Threshold we put on. Lizzie and I presented, as we mentioned in our previous post. Below are our accounts of the presentation.

This presentation was almost a year in the making. Last June, Lizzie and I went to Thunder in the Mountains. We really enjoyed some of the presentations we went to and thought others were a bit blah. It got us talking on the flight home from Denver about how we could should consider sharing our experience (and experiences) with others. By the time we got home I had set a goal to speak at a kink conference within one year. Attending Thunder in the Mountains last year, Craig was inspired by the presentations to try something other than our blog to share our experiences with others in the lifestyle. We started tossing ideas back and forth. We even developed a rough outline of what we might present for Silent Scenes before we left Denver. The background research for the presentation took a bit more work, as we discussed in our last post.
After brainstorming different topics, one rose to the top as being distinctive: Silent Scenes. I began working on an outline not long after and then spent time researching the technical aspects of the presentation. I felt once I had the structure of the talk together I could start pitching it to different conferences. Little did I know that the very group I am a proud member of, the Monarchs, would be putting on our own lay-long event months later.

As the Monarchs began planning Sinposium, I pitched the group my talk idea. I got positive feedback from everyone. No one had heard such a topic presented at conferences in the past. I was on the agenda.

Months passed by and I worked on the presentation when I had spare time. As it got closer to the event, Lizzie and I pulled together our research, purchased the dB meter we needed as a necessary prop/demonstration tool for the talk, and finalized the presentation.

Last Saturday was the event. The day progressed well with strong presentations on different subjects. Then it was our turn! Up to the front of the room we went and I launched into our Silent Scenes presentation, complete with an excellent slide show (if I do say so myself). Lizzie was my demo bottom. We had volunteers come up to help with other aspects of the talk, and by the time our hour was up, everyone was quite complimentary with how it turned out.




I'm proud of the fact we set a goal for ourselves and did it. Now that we know we have a good presentation on our hands, testing on a great audience at Sinposium, we are eager to share it again at other kink conferences around the country.

Last Sunday, the day after the event, Lizzie and I were already brainstorming our next presentation topics, ready to do more.

Glad we did it and happy to give back to the community that brought Lizzie and I and some of our very best friends together.
We had a really good time presenting at Sinposium. We’ve already started working on ideas for different presentations we could give. We’ve enjoyed sharing our experiences through our blog and we look forward to engaging with the community in new ways.

I really enjoy being a demo bottom, especially when I’m not required to speak up in front of a group. But we’re working on that, so we should be able to present on a wider variety of topics and adventures we’ve encountered in the scene. It’s fun to work together in this way, from brainstorming to the presentation.

Is there a topic you’d like to see presented? Drop us a line or leave us a comment.

Friday, May 19, 2017

Prepping for Sinposium

The Monarchs, the MDHL group I am proud to a member of, is hosting our next educational event, Sinposium, at Threshold in North Hollywood on May 27. The day-long event features a variety of demos, presentations, and interactive talks, including a presentation by yours truly. Tickets are available at HERE and additional information on the event can be found on FetLife.

Lizzie and I have been prepping for my presentation at Sinposium over the last few weeks. My talk is entitled "Silent Scenes" and is based on a few blog posts that have appeared right here on our blog. You can read those posts HERE and HERE.

Silent Scenes is what we called the scenes we used to have when we were living in a home with two of my children, a grandchild, and a boyfriend of one of my daughters. Finding a place to play and doing so to not raise suspicions required a lot of creativity and careful planning. Thus, Silent Scenes.
When we’ve attended events in the past, Craig and I have discussed the possibility of presenting. Such a thing comes naturally to Craig, but for me it causes more of a problem.

Once, early in my adventures in the spanking community, I was asked to participate in a spanking quiz game on stage. As we quickly reviewed our limits beforehand, I told my partner: “You can take down my panties and bare my bottom on stage in front of a couple hundred people, but you’d better not expect me to say anything.” This is still true -- I am shy, but I’m not modest.
To prep for the presentation we purchased a dB meter in order to record sound levels made by various implements. We arranged a wide range of impact implements in order to determine what level of sound they made, then used each one on Lizzie in a softer way and then again at full throttle. Each impact was recorded on the meter from the same distance.

As we began to go through the litany of implements and notate their decibel peaks on a form on my laptop, our research slowly began to become an scene in its own right. Lizzie began mewing and moaning as her bottom got redder and redder and marks began to show. We had only gotten through half the implements and there were plenty left to go.

By the time we were down the final few, Lizzie's bottom was baked and she was in her own headspace of sorts, even though our "scene" was constantly being interrupted with questions like "Did you write down the levels on that implement?" and "Did you reset the decibel max?"

Still, it was fun to go through all that and prep for our presentation and bonus points for that to turn into a scene unto itself.

Hopefully, if you're a Fellow Kinkster living in the Los Angeles area, you can join us for Sinposium. It will likely be not very quiet.
With that in mind, it’s quite fitting that our first presentation will be about Silent Scenes. After all, with that lead in, I don’t think anyone will be expecting me to say much during the presentation. And I do love acting as a demo bottom.

Before making the presentation, though, we had to do some research. Craig wanted to measure the volume of various implements from the same distance. So we used the very scientific method of having me hold the dB meter in approximately the same place during the various impacts.

It wasn’t our typical sort of lengthy impact scene. I don’t even know that it was a particularly hard scene, though Craig did use some nasty implements at full swing. But whether it was a hard impacts or the nature of the unusual headspace, our research took on the quality of a scene, albeit an unusual one for us. By the end, I was pretty well done in.

I can’t wait for the presentation! It may not be silent...but I might be.

Friday, March 17, 2017

Grabbing Ass

Our most common theme here, aside from the stories we tell about the evolving nature of our lifestyle relationship and those of people in the lifestyle around us, is how busy we are. It's repeated ad nauseum. Today's post (the first in some time, we're a bit embarrassed to say) focuses on the "in between" moments where can briefly enjoy our kink.

As we said in the intro, finding time to play and explore our kink is hard. Between January and March we didn't have a single weekend where we didn't have company or one or both of us were out of town. Hell, we didn't even celebrate Valentine's Day until last weekend because we were both in separate states on February 14.

So we grab time when we can to have some kinky fun. We've even managed to have some playtime with some trusted friends recently.
As we’ve said more than once, our lives have been a bit hectic of late. As a result, our play has been less structured and more “catch as catch can” - quite literally with a friend, as Craig mentions later. Too bad we didn’t get any pictures of that!

But for Craig and I, our play has been limited to a series of quick scenes tucked into our daily lives. Sometimes we need to celebrate the things we are able to do.
Lizzie was in the kitchen the other morning making my coffee before I left for work. This ritual, an important part of our D/s, involves her making the coffee and bringing it to me, presenting it on her knees and holding it up to me. She kisses the edge of the cup and says, "Here's your coffee, sir." I take it from her. We have complete eye contact. I take a sip. I then help her to her feet, kiss her on her lips and forehead, and tell her what a good girl she is. I will also compliment her on her fine coffee making skills.

On this one morning, she was naked, grinding coffee. I came in, dressed for work, and took to a hard hand spanking as she stood with her hands on the countertop.

Another day, I was in the bathroom and she was walking by, naked once again (are you seeing a pattern here?), and I took to swatting her bottom. No warm-up. Just a fast, hard spanking.

A few days earlier I pulled Lizzie across my lap and gave her a longer hand swatting.

Some friends from the lifestyle (and our best friends, not merely people we met at a dungeon or play party) were over for a weekend a few times. My good friend, another MDHL Brother, has "helped out" a number of times, strapping, caning, and swatting Lizzie. Last weekend, they had a full-on wrestle session, something I'm not inclined to do. The two were left with skinned elbows and knees.
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So these stolen moments, these brief opportunistic chances to get a minute or two of play in, happen. Not frequently, but they happen. Not long, because it's difficult to coordinate. Further, I'm generally not in the right headspace when I come home from work--usually mentally wiped more than physically, but still.

I'm eager for a longer session where we can connect all on our own, but that's not happening anytime soon: I travel out of the country this weekend, the following weekend we have family visiting (the third visit of this sort this year), then I travel out of the country again a few days later. Our kinky friends come back the weekend after that (they aren't holding us back on enjoying our play, it's play of a different sort when we're with them) and then yet another out-of-town visitor is coming to stay. Immediately after that, we are off on vacation for a week, which leads us pretty much to the end of April.
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You can see how the schedule goes for us. Thus the lack of posts. And the lack of play. Roll your eyes. Feel our pain. Whatever you do, Fellow Kinkster, is fine with us. We will post when we can and I'll grab ass when I get a chance. Given our dynamic, I don’t necessarily have any say in when we find time for the scenes. But I think it goes without saying that I enjoy every chance we get!

Monday, February 13, 2017

Excuses, Excuses, Excuses

Our blog has become fairly sporadic recently. And as always it's the same reason: we're too busy! We know that sounds like a broken record, but it's true. By the time President's Day is behind us, we will have been out of town either for work, pleasure, or family for the entire month of February. That leaves little time to post, let alone think about what we want to blog about.

We realize that doesn't serve your needs to be entertained, enlightened, or simply looking for some good wank material, but what can we say?

In the mean time, here's a couple of pics from some fun we've managed to wedge in between our busy schedules:

Thursday, January 12, 2017

Products We'd Like to See

We go to a private annual holiday party hosted by the Monarchs, an MDHL group Craig is a member of.

Our annual holiday party is a great event each year. A group of us get together to relax, enjoy food, share in the camaraderie of other like-minded people, and have fun. There is always a white elephant gift exchange, which can get competitive and...interesting.

Last year, Lizzie and I made fake consumer products, including an "Instant Littles Kit" that had Hello Kitty stuff inside. This year, we took the packaging to the next level. Not only did we do a full box top and sides, Lizzie went so far as to organize the contents to look like consumer packaging.

We had a lot of fun with the copy on the box. The top is clear to see and read, but the sides aren't.

Here's the text from the sides of her box: My First Little playset by Playlittle® is approved by the AAD (American Association of Daddies). WARNING! Cocks may cause a choking hazard. Bratting may be subject to extreme punishment. Excessive Hello Kitty may also result in punishment. Do not place bag over head unless part of scene.
We’ve enjoyed the holiday party for several years now. I have mixed feelings about the white elephant gift exchange, though. While I can see that many people love the thrill of “stealing” gifts, such an exchange can get to be a little bit too emotionally charged for an empath like myself. But I do love coming up with an interesting, inexpensive gift - especially when that gift gets a reaction from our friends.

Last year, I filled a box with Hello Kitty craft supplies that I’d purchased at Michael’s on clearance, with a coupon. And Craig made a label for my box. This year, I wanted to take that idea a step further.

I researched the packaging of children’s toys and books for ideas. Then, I got dressed up and accessorized with a few of my Littles supplies and Craig took pictures. It took us several attempts to find the best spot to take this picture, including one memorable attempt with me sprawled outside on our back deck. Craig had to do a little work to adjust the lighting, but I love the way this picture turned out!
And here's my box (no, I don't condone rape, but I do condone consensual rape in context to a scene. So, with that behind us...):

I hope you can tell we got a lot of laughs from this. Everyone was looking, reading, passing the boxes around, and shocked that the contents inside matched. It was the perfect white elephant gift for a bunch of kinksters.

Now how will we up the ante even more next year?
Last year, we put together some unused implements and Craig created a fun label for an “Instant Dom Kit”. Again, we wanted to take that idea a step further, making it look more like a real consumer product.

We didn’t take our own pictures for his box, but he used my research to make the box fit our theme. And we made the label for the (empty) bottle of “Chloroform”.

Now, we just need to start planning for next year...