Friday, October 26, 2012

It Started With...

Welcome to our new side-by-side format blog. Here you’ll always find two perspectives to everything we write about: our scenes & play, our fantasies, our philosophies, our fiction. Hopefully you’ll like this unique dual blog. We hope to hear what you think.

...An Email ...A Story
My ex and I were going to go to our first spanking party, Shadow Lane’s St. Paddle’s Day party, the last one they were going to do. I got my free membership to SL and read how to meet people. Their recommendation: post a message to their board. So I did. The one and only response I got was from Lizzie. She told me about her and her husband (now her ex). We met up at SL and tried to play, but it didn’t happen. The last night of the party we did. And there was just something about it that seemed special.

Later, at Boardwalk Badness Weekend, we went to play in one of those seedy little spanking booths they have in the next room off the ballroom. Lizzie went OTK in our little space and the spanking began. For the first time of many she reached back, placed her hand against my leg so that she was in connection with me, and our scene turned into something almost transformative. By the end we both looked each other in the eyes. We knew our play was something special.

I remember when Lizzie went to Thunder in the Mountains. She didn’t have the best of weekends, feeling out of sorts and out of place at that hardcore BDSM event. I ended up talking to her on the phone, talking her off the ledge, figuratively speaking. Being her play partner, her friend, I was happy to be there for her. And with that, we knew we could trust each other and that we were always available to help one another.

After that, I wrote her a story. And that was the start of a lot more.

I had known Craig for some time, playing at parties and exchanging frequent emails. We had great chemistry when we played and we were close friends, discussing everything about the scene, our kink, our lives. We had discussed open relationships and certainly considered ourselves to be in some kind of poly-relationship, however vaguely defined at the time.

I’ve always written stories. Lots and lots of stories, truth be told. I enjoy creating characters and telling tales. I use stories to explore ideas, relationships, kinks, everything in my life. And I devour books and stories of all sorts. I’ve collaborated on stories and had stories written for me. But nothing like this.

I had gone to Thunder in the Mountains, a huge leather event in Colorado, with a girlfriend and her (now ex-)Top. We were celebrating my girlfriend’s 50th Birthday, so I stepped out of my comfort, spanking-party, zone to attend the event with her. Thunder was a mind-blowing, eye-opening event, but an even bigger change was happening in my relationship with Craig.

He wrote me a story, describing a scene we would soon play out at Shadowlane. He had taken all my preferences, all my favorite things, and combined them with desires I wasn’t even aware of until I read the story. Reading his first chapter, I dissolved into tears. The title of his email for the second chapter was “Don’t Cry.” The thought still makes me giggle.

Even as strong as my response was to that story, I had no idea where this adventure would lead me. I found my soulmate. A man’s whose journey into and through the scene eerily tracks my own journey. Someone who support me, encourages me, and won’t let me get in my own way.

I hope that we can share some of that adventure with our readers here – the thrill of building our live together, the frank discussion of the difficulties we face, the occasional backward-looking reminisce of our lives, the incredible scenes we engage in, and, of course, the stories.

19 comments:

  1. Yay! I'm the first black and bluer!

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    1. Yay! So glad you're reading!

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    2. Black and Bluer! We have nomenclature! Woo-hoo!

      Thanks for the comment, Jada. Glad you're the first!

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  2. Very cool format, Lizzie. Well done! I can't wait to visit here and read two perspectives on the same subject. Craig, you've got a winner here!

    Hugs,
    Hermione

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    1. Thanks, Hermione! I've had great fun playing with it.

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    2. We'll do our best, Hermione. Thanks for joining us!

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  3. This is a really interesting format. Good luck with the blog and looking forward to reading more!

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    1. Thanks, Lea! We are really looking forward to this experiment.

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    2. Thanks for your comment, Lea. We're looking forward to sharing.

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  4. They say there are two sides to every story. I'm looking forward to reading both sides :)

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    1. Perfect tagline faerie. Thanks for contributing to our marketing efforts. ;-)

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    2. That's the idea. Our next post will explore that more fully, describing both sides of a scene.

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  5. How creative! Love the format and like that you are taking it and crossing it over into fiction/scenes/ttwd! Looking forward to reading more :o)

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    1. Glad you like it, Bleuame. Already working up our next post, a scene breakdown from both perspectives.

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    2. Thanks, Bleuame! We've got our next post up (each time it's easier to get the post written and fix the formatting). We are both really enjoying this.

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  6. Lizzie and Craig, I didn't manage to comment earlier due to having a very busy time, but I still wanted to use the chance to wish you all the best for both, your new blog and of course your relationship as well! When I saw your first post about the changes in your life, Craig, I said to Ludwig on the phone: "Maybe he and Lizzie are a couple now?" But then the post didn't say anything about that and I thought that my assumption must have been wrong. Finally your follow-up post confirmed that I wasn't so wrong after all. I am very happy for the two of you! And I look forward to reading more about your adventures. :-)

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    1. Thanks so much, Kaelah. Believe it or not, your blog inspired me to consider the idea of a joint blog with dual perspectives. We are finding our new lives together to be incredibly rewarding, both in terms of vanilla and lifestyle. Hopefully our blog will continue to draw your interest.

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    2. Thank you for reading and your well wishes, Kaelah! I'm glad things have settled down enough that you can comment. It's been a process and an adventure, but it's been a wonderful thing for both of us. Craig and I wrote so much during our long-distance relationship, this blog seemed to be the natural next step - sharing our experiences, thoughts, and growth together.

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    3. Wow, Craig, thank you, it's wonderful to hear that our blog inspired you! And Lizzie, I definitely look forward to reading more about your experiences, thoughts and growth together. It is wonderful to read about another kinky couple for whom spanking isn't (solely) about discipline and who share the perspectives of both partners.

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